Things Woman Wants In Man
Do you know what women want in a man? Do you know all of the secrets ways to attract women? IF you do not know what a woman wants then how can you ever give it to her? Women can sometimes be a complete mystery, but when you peel back the curtain you will find that they are often quite predictable. The hard part, of course, is discovering the ways that they are predictable and taking full advantage of these ways to attract women.
Women have always wanted men with resources or the potential to gather resources, so they have developed cues not only to evaluate if a man could get resources but whether he would share them. Essentially, women developed a mental list of behaviors that show a man could be willing to dedicate his resources to her. Only human males share resources with females. Other primate females must find their own food and protection.
Evolutionary biologists and evolutionary psychologists who study human mating strategies have found that women everywhere generally agree on the important characteristics they want in their men.
Here are the top things women say they want from men:
Women have always wanted men with resources or the potential to gather resources, so they have developed cues not only to evaluate if a man could get resources but whether he would share them. Essentially, women developed a mental list of behaviors that show a man could be willing to dedicate his resources to her. Only human males share resources with females. Other primate females must find their own food and protection.
Evolutionary biologists and evolutionary psychologists who study human mating strategies have found that women everywhere generally agree on the important characteristics they want in their men.
Here are the top things women say they want from men:
1. Love
When you study the items on this list, they all add up to what women describe as “love.”
A woman wants to be reassured every day that she is loved and adored, and she needs his words and intimacy as proof. The list of favorite things a woman want to hear includes “I love you,” said in as many ways as possible, such as “You’re beautiful,” “You cooked a wonderful meal,” “You did that well,” or an unexpected phone call to say he’s thinking of her.
Showing appreciation of anything a woman does in the home is also decoded as an expression of love, and love implies a man will share his resources with her. Ind divorce cases, women regularly say that men take them for granted and never show appreciation for their efforts in the home.
This is because a man feels that his efforts of being the main breadwinner (as most men still are), fixing broken things around the home, solving problems, or changing light bulbs are sufficient proof of his appreciation and love.
Women believe that if a man really loves a woman, he should show it every day with his words and actions. Women want a daily demonstration of love. This is a difficult concept for a man to grasp because he shows the expression of his love by “doing things” for her.
He’ll mow the lawn, paint the house, fix her car, take her to the movies, go to work, and pay off the mortgage. The man’s brain is organized to measure his self-worth and contribution by what he does or achieves, not by what he says or feels.
In Why Men Don’t Have a Clue & Women Always Need More Shoes the women’s brains are better organized for language skills than men’s and how words are a form of foreplay for women. Men need to understand that women need to hear actual words of appreciation and love to believe it is true and to hear them daily. Remembering important dates like birthdays and anniversaries also rates highly on a woman’s measurement of a man’s love.
Bringing gifts, however small, tells a woman a man loves her—and the simpler, the better: A small flower from the garden and a handwritten love note or card are winners. The point is that a man’s actions are the key, not the actual gift.
Most men, however, feel that a gift must be large or expensive because that is how they measure the worth of gifts. For a woman, the gift of a handpicked flower from the garden carries more clout than receiving an electric toaster. Twelve roses may be perceived as a decoration for the home, but there is no doubt in a woman’s mind of what a single rose means.
A woman wants to be reassured every day that she is loved and adored, and she needs his words and intimacy as proof. The list of favorite things a woman want to hear includes “I love you,” said in as many ways as possible, such as “You’re beautiful,” “You cooked a wonderful meal,” “You did that well,” or an unexpected phone call to say he’s thinking of her.
Showing appreciation of anything a woman does in the home is also decoded as an expression of love, and love implies a man will share his resources with her. Ind divorce cases, women regularly say that men take them for granted and never show appreciation for their efforts in the home.
This is because a man feels that his efforts of being the main breadwinner (as most men still are), fixing broken things around the home, solving problems, or changing light bulbs are sufficient proof of his appreciation and love.
Women believe that if a man really loves a woman, he should show it every day with his words and actions. Women want a daily demonstration of love. This is a difficult concept for a man to grasp because he shows the expression of his love by “doing things” for her.
He’ll mow the lawn, paint the house, fix her car, take her to the movies, go to work, and pay off the mortgage. The man’s brain is organized to measure his self-worth and contribution by what he does or achieves, not by what he says or feels.
In Why Men Don’t Have a Clue & Women Always Need More Shoes the women’s brains are better organized for language skills than men’s and how words are a form of foreplay for women. Men need to understand that women need to hear actual words of appreciation and love to believe it is true and to hear them daily. Remembering important dates like birthdays and anniversaries also rates highly on a woman’s measurement of a man’s love.
Bringing gifts, however small, tells a woman a man loves her—and the simpler, the better: A small flower from the garden and a handwritten love note or card are winners. The point is that a man’s actions are the key, not the actual gift.
Most men, however, feel that a gift must be large or expensive because that is how they measure the worth of gifts. For a woman, the gift of a handpicked flower from the garden carries more clout than receiving an electric toaster. Twelve roses may be perceived as a decoration for the home, but there is no doubt in a woman’s mind of what a single rose means.
2. Faithfulness
Fidelity offers the promise that a man will continue to share his resources with a woman, but a woman’s definition of infidelity is very different from a man’s. A man is concerned that she might have sex with another man, which could result in him investing his time in raising another man’s child. A woman’s chief concern is about the emotional connection between her man and his fling.
This is why her first question is always “Do you love this woman?” In other words, “Will you commit your resources to her?” The actual sex he had with her is not her prime issue. If a man says, “No, it was just sex,” he will rarely be believed, because women cannot understand how you can have sex with someone without first having an emotional connection. But for men, it’s easy.
Men can compartmentalize lust and love in the brain, so that sex is just sex and love is love. The bottom line for women is that sex equals love, which equals the redirection of his resources. If a man says he’ll be faithful, a woman feels that he won’t share his resources with someone else.
This is why her first question is always “Do you love this woman?” In other words, “Will you commit your resources to her?” The actual sex he had with her is not her prime issue. If a man says, “No, it was just sex,” he will rarely be believed, because women cannot understand how you can have sex with someone without first having an emotional connection. But for men, it’s easy.
Men can compartmentalize lust and love in the brain, so that sex is just sex and love is love. The bottom line for women is that sex equals love, which equals the redirection of his resources. If a man says he’ll be faithful, a woman feels that he won’t share his resources with someone else.
3. Kindness
kindness ranks third most desirable by women because it also symbolizes commitment. The reproductive resource is the key item a woman can offer, so she is discriminating about whom she will give it to, and love, sincerity, generosity, and kindness are her prerequisites.
Ancestral women preferred generous men and avoided tightfisted men because the generous ones would provide resources and protection for her and her offspring, giving them a greater chance of their survival.
Women who have their own resources, status and power still go for men with their own resources. almost all women, regardless of culture, showed a strong preference for financially successful men and that financially successful women showed an even stronger preference for these men because they want a man who is stronger than they are.
This is why you’ll rarely see a rich, powerful, successful woman with a man who is a total loser. a survey of 624 European female executives and 86% said they would not be interested in men who were less successful than themselves, 9% said they would consider the idea, and 5% felt it wouldn’t matter.
Ancestral women preferred generous men and avoided tightfisted men because the generous ones would provide resources and protection for her and her offspring, giving them a greater chance of their survival.
This is why you’ll rarely see a rich, powerful, successful woman with a man who is a total loser. a survey of 624 European female executives and 86% said they would not be interested in men who were less successful than themselves, 9% said they would consider the idea, and 5% felt it wouldn’t matter.
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So how do the aging female movie stars who couple with much younger males fit these findings?
These are usually older, successful women who have a string of younger, less successful men. First, from an evolutionary standpoint, these unions have no value, because the women have no reproductive value, whereas a sixty-year-old man and a twenty-five-year-old woman do.
For every five women aged sixty, there are only three men of similar age available, so an older woman’s choices are more limited, whereas older men have a preference for younger women—they’d rather have a thirty-five-year-old woman than a sixty-year-old if possible.
An older woman can feel young again with a younger suitor, but a younger man will enter this type of arrangement because of the benefits he can get—money, power, fame, and notoriety.
In other words, she has resources—money, status, connections, and power—and he’d like to have some, please. This is not to say that coupling between an older woman and a younger man can’t last—some do—but most don’t.
4. Commitment
A man who promises commitment pledges he will continue to provide resources. Women everywhere accuse men of being commitmentphobes and love escapees. When you consider what commitment means from an ancestral woman’s viewpoint, it makes perfect sense.
A sexual liaison for her would involve a commitment for ten to fifteen years to carry and raise a child to self-sufficiency.
For a man, however, the same encounter would cost only a small amount of time—maybe just a few minutes—and then he’d be off to his next venture. Because a man is wired to spread his genes as often and widely as possible, many men fear commitment to one woman and dread the idea of eternal monogamy, and most men understand that commitment means sharing their resources.
“I want him to show commitment” is the cry of women everywhere. It takes nine months for a woman to bear a child and at least another five years to raise the child to a minimum level of self-sufficiency for basic survival. Compare this to a baby chimpanzee, which can survive alone after only six weeks of life.
As a result, women’s brains became hardwired to search for males who will commit to staying around for a minimum period of six years to participate in the provision of food and protection for them and their offspring. On a subconscious level, men and women recognize this phenomenon and it is often called “the seven-year itch.”
It is detrimental to infant survival for a woman to couple with a male who makes her pregnant and leaves or offers no support, so women became hardwired to closely scrutinize what any male can offer to raise the next generation.
To most women, marriage is still seen as the ultimate indication a man can give that he intends to stick around. Being the child-bearer, a woman makes a total commitment to the creation and nurturing of the next generation, and she wants a male who will commit to the same. This is why trust is such a critical factor for women in a relationship.
From a biological standpoint, a woman doesn’t want a male to be involved in the procreation and rearing of another woman’s offspring but to dedicate his efforts solely to her offspring.
A sexual liaison for her would involve a commitment for ten to fifteen years to carry and raise a child to self-sufficiency.
For a man, however, the same encounter would cost only a small amount of time—maybe just a few minutes—and then he’d be off to his next venture. Because a man is wired to spread his genes as often and widely as possible, many men fear commitment to one woman and dread the idea of eternal monogamy, and most men understand that commitment means sharing their resources.
As a result, women’s brains became hardwired to search for males who will commit to staying around for a minimum period of six years to participate in the provision of food and protection for them and their offspring. On a subconscious level, men and women recognize this phenomenon and it is often called “the seven-year itch.”
It is detrimental to infant survival for a woman to couple with a male who makes her pregnant and leaves or offers no support, so women became hardwired to closely scrutinize what any male can offer to raise the next generation.
To most women, marriage is still seen as the ultimate indication a man can give that he intends to stick around. Being the child-bearer, a woman makes a total commitment to the creation and nurturing of the next generation, and she wants a male who will commit to the same. This is why trust is such a critical factor for women in a relationship.
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This is why being monogamous is a prerequisite in a relationship for nearly all women in contemporary societies. When a woman’s trust is broken, it can be difficult to repair the relationship, and women who suffer several broken relationships can become cynical about whether any man can be trusted.
Many young women now use the word “loyalty” in place of “monogamy.
5. Education and intelligence
A man with higher education and intelligence is seen as being more capable of acquiring resources. Higher education means he’s likely to hold more senior positions in the workplace and therefore have more power, status, and resources. Higher intelligence promises the potential for the same things.
Although women today are still hardwired to be attracted to men who are financially secure, they also strive for financial security for themselves. In past generations, this was not an issue, because marriage meant forever and the man would always be there to provide for the woman and her children.
And because past generations had large families, they also had the benefit of a large support network. Today, there is no guarantee that a man will be there for a woman tomorrow. For example, the number of families in Britain headed by a solo mother is 19.67%; that’s one in five families.3 This compares to 2.16% solo male heads of family, so personal financial security has become a real issue for women.
This is not to say that every woman wants to marry a millionaire, but she definitely doesn’t want a man who gambles, takes unnecessary risks with money, or spends too much on himself.
Past generations of women had little choice but to tolerate financial recklessness and “stand by their man,” but twenty-first-century women see this behavior as irresponsible and read it as a sign that he doesn’t love or respect them.
Although women today are still hardwired to be attracted to men who are financially secure, they also strive for financial security for themselves. In past generations, this was not an issue, because marriage meant forever and the man would always be there to provide for the woman and her children.
And because past generations had large families, they also had the benefit of a large support network. Today, there is no guarantee that a man will be there for a woman tomorrow. For example, the number of families in Britain headed by a solo mother is 19.67%; that’s one in five families.3 This compares to 2.16% solo male heads of family, so personal financial security has become a real issue for women.
This is not to say that every woman wants to marry a millionaire, but she definitely doesn’t want a man who gambles, takes unnecessary risks with money, or spends too much on himself.
Past generations of women had little choice but to tolerate financial recklessness and “stand by their man,” but twenty-first-century women see this behavior as irresponsible and read it as a sign that he doesn’t love or respect them.
Seven Simple Things Women Find Attractive In Men
The following seven points are also on women’s list of criteria for a man’s attractiveness and are cues to a man’s ability to gather resources. They are not in any particular order here, but one thing is for sure: Women are attracted to men who can and will do these things.
1. Women are attracted to men who make them laugh
A man having a sense of humor sits at or near the top of almost every survey on what is attractive to women and is regularly mentioned in the personal ads. When a woman laughs, her brain instructs her body to release endorphins—a chemical with a structure similar to morphine—which give her that warm, tingling feeling.
Endorphins are one of the body’s natural painkillers; they build the immune system and protect against disease. Laughter causes a reduction in stress hormones, such as cortisol, and it also lowers blood pressure, which in turn reduces the risk of heart disease. Increased cortisol levels suppress the immune system, so decreasing this hormone is beneficial to overall health.
A woman unconsciously comprehends that a man who can see the lighter side of life will be good for her health, overall well-being, and long-term survival, so she will avoid men who are constantly negative and miserable or men who look like they’ve been weaned on a pickle. Women see things differently that's why you need to understand the female mind.
Endorphins are one of the body’s natural painkillers; they build the immune system and protect against disease. Laughter causes a reduction in stress hormones, such as cortisol, and it also lowers blood pressure, which in turn reduces the risk of heart disease. Increased cortisol levels suppress the immune system, so decreasing this hormone is beneficial to overall health.
A woman unconsciously comprehends that a man who can see the lighter side of life will be good for her health, overall well-being, and long-term survival, so she will avoid men who are constantly negative and miserable or men who look like they’ve been weaned on a pickle. Women see things differently that's why you need to understand the female mind.
2. Women are attracted to men who will communicate
High on every woman’s list is a man who is willing to listen to her talk about her problems and feelings without interrupting her or giving her solutions. If you are a man, reveal personal details about yourself as she reveals things about herself.
This type of “mirroring” creates rapport and leads to intimacy more quickly. It doesn’t mean a man has to behave like a woman, just to listen with compassion and without offering solutions.
This type of “mirroring” creates rapport and leads to intimacy more quickly. It doesn’t mean a man has to behave like a woman, just to listen with compassion and without offering solutions.
3. Women are attracted to men who cook
For around a million years men have been hunting for food and giving it to women. Even in the twenty-first century, any man who can cook a meal for a woman will stir primeval feelings in her.
This is why taking a woman to dinner is such a seductive event for her, even if she is not hungry. It’s the act of a man who is willing to provide food resources for her that is the motivational trigger. If you are a man, enroll in cooking classes today.
This is why taking a woman to dinner is such a seductive event for her, even if she is not hungry. It’s the act of a man who is willing to provide food resources for her that is the motivational trigger. If you are a man, enroll in cooking classes today.
4. Women are attracted to men who dance
The sole purpose of dancing is to draw attention to oneself, with sex as its base motivation. When couples dance, they often hold each other and mirror each other’s body movements, just as other animal species do before they mate.
Only one in eight men is equipped with a “rhythm switch” in the brain, which allows you to sense pulses and click your fingers in time to music, whereas most women have this naturally.
The purpose of most female dancing is to attract the attention of potential mates, nothing more, and any man who is willing to participate will be a big hit and never short of a date. If you are a man, go to dancing lessons immediately after your cooking class has ended.
Only one in eight men is equipped with a “rhythm switch” in the brain, which allows you to sense pulses and click your fingers in time to music, whereas most women have this naturally.
The purpose of most female dancing is to attract the attention of potential mates, nothing more, and any man who is willing to participate will be a big hit and never short of a date. If you are a man, go to dancing lessons immediately after your cooking class has ended.
5. Women are attracted to men who make them feel secure
Women feel insecure about three things: their appearance, finances, and whether they are loved. A woman wants to be told she looks good, smells good, tastes good, and feels good.
To not notice that she has a new hairstyle or is wearing new shoes says to her that she’s not worth noticing. Telling her how wonderful she looks and complimenting her choices of styles or designs makes a woman feel sexy, and she might consider having sex.
A man coming home late or not explaining his whereabouts creates suspicion and breeds insecurity in most women, so a man calling to say where he is or when he’ll be back or that he misses her always a woman’s fears. “Does this dress make my butt look big?” she asked. “No,” he said. “It’s all the chocolate cake you eat that makes your butt look big.”
To not notice that she has a new hairstyle or is wearing new shoes says to her that she’s not worth noticing. Telling her how wonderful she looks and complimenting her choices of styles or designs makes a woman feel sexy, and she might consider having sex.
A man coming home late or not explaining his whereabouts creates suspicion and breeds insecurity in most women, so a man calling to say where he is or when he’ll be back or that he misses her always a woman’s fears. “Does this dress make my butt look big?” she asked. “No,” he said. “It’s all the chocolate cake you eat that makes your butt look big.”
6. Women are attracted to men who like children
The reason a woman wants to be in a relationship is to be part of a unit in which she can feel secure, reassured, and comfortable. The ability to create life is the trump card women have so any man who signals that he likes children by playing games with children, pulling faces, being humorous, or telling bedtime stories will score well in the attractiveness ratings.
7. Women are attracted to healthy-looking men
Women everywhere rate a man’s good health as very high to critical on their list of desirable male qualities. This is for two reasons: First, if he is in poor health, he may die early or become incapable, and this cuts off her resources; second, he may transmit the disease to her or her children through physical contact or through genes.
A man in good health carries the promise of potentially healthy offspring and the long-term provision of resources. Women generally rate signs of bad health as anything from the poor physical condition and open wounds to bad breath and inadequate grooming habits.
Good health can be observed by good physical condition, clear skin, and high energy levels, which are indicated by fast walking and movement and a lively attitude (also characteristics of higher-status individuals).
Laid-back, slow-moving males are perceived as likely to live longer but are also considered to lack motivation and ambition and are therefore poor prospects for long-term resource value. So if you are a man, go straight to the gym to work out before you cook dinner for a woman and take her dancing.
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A man in good health carries the promise of potentially healthy offspring and the long-term provision of resources. Women generally rate signs of bad health as anything from the poor physical condition and open wounds to bad breath and inadequate grooming habits.
Good health can be observed by good physical condition, clear skin, and high energy levels, which are indicated by fast walking and movement and a lively attitude (also characteristics of higher-status individuals).
Laid-back, slow-moving males are perceived as likely to live longer but are also considered to lack motivation and ambition and are therefore poor prospects for long-term resource value. So if you are a man, go straight to the gym to work out before you cook dinner for a woman and take her dancing.
To be really successful with women you must prove that you UNDERSTAND women. Women want a man that gets "it", that knows how she works and is willing to learn more every day!
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